“You need to love yourself before you can allow someone to love you”
“You need to love yourself before you can allow someone to love you”. We have all heard this before but have you REALLY took time to understand what the saying means?
As corny as it may sound, loving yourself is a main factor in a successful relationships. As a matchmaker and marriage and family therapist, I have worked with so many individuals ready to find the one, tired of being single, or couples that have been in same negative patterns for a long time. The first thing I tell them, and now I am telling you, is learn to love yourself before even trying to date or think your relationship will improve.
Let me explain this a little more clearly. When we do not love ourselves, we accept the love that we believe we deserve. If you don’t love yourself properly, why would you expect someone else love you properly? If you don’t believe you are worthy of love, respect, and true happiness, why would choose someone that is capable of giving you love, respect, and happiness? We accept the love we think we deserve.
Before “getting out there again” “dating” “settling down” or putting expectation on improving your relationship, really think about how you feel about yourself and the relationship you have with YOU. If the relationship with yourself is not where you want it to be, then what makes you think a relationship with another person will be where you want it to be either?
You need to established a good relationship with yourself and have healthy self-esteem and self-worth.
Get to the point where you are okay with being with you, have a good outlook on yourself, and know 100% that you are worth receiving genuine love. The type of love that is kind, respectful, passionate, deep, continuously helps you to grow, and challenges you in a positive manner.
Remember you accept the love you believe you deserve which derives from your own self-worth and relationship with yourself.
Peace and Love my Beauties!
Nicole Albanese LMFT, M.Ed
Millionaire Socialites LLC
Do not hesitate to CALL US 561-779-0697 or email MSocialites@gmail.com